Yes, that garden stake you saw in Friday’s flash is something I ordered. From Hobby Lobby (don’t judge me lol)
I have officially started my week’s vacation as of now.
Sister has a friend who has some money and tomorrow we are going to three wineries she is a member of and doing some tasting as well as a picnic outdoors. For dinner she is a member of a yacht club so we are dining there at their restaurant. It’s good to have friends richer than you.
This week I go with my sister to that casino and hotel in San Diego. I think we will have great fun.
I myself also joined a wine club. You get shipments three times a year. It’s one of my favorite wineries up north. That’s just a random side note.
It’s funny how the strangest things and memories and thoughts can set you off to weeping over your lost loved one.
Ma used to keep stashes of money. She played bingo weekly, loved Vegas, and until she had dementia went with my sister to the Native American casinos. She was pretty lucky too. So she kept stashes of money. If you went with her, and you gave her a sad face that you were out of money, she would take out her stash and pluck some bills for you. She could be super generous obviously.
Anyway, my sister came across some of her stash yesterday, another $200 in her underwear drawer in her closet. She gave me $100 and kept the other for herself. This made me cry. This was my mother’s money, she should be the one spending it. My mother, that is. And yes, I 100% know she has passed away from this life, I hope to a better one. At the very least she is out of pain. But this was her money and it makes me sad to get it. It just does. And I’m having a lot of weird guilt over it.
So yes, I am still struggling with grief.
Thanks for listening.
August 13, 2021 at 4:20 pm
Grief is a weird thing and hardly ever linear. It makes sense that sadness and guilt would happen along with the rest.
You’ll have fun with sister, but there will probably be sad moments too. It’s the way of it. It’s all valid.
Big hugs and love.
I expect a report about the wineries and also the wine club! 😉
And the garden stake is super cute so I’ll try not to judge you for the HL purchase. Heh. 😘
Take care of you love.
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August 13, 2021 at 4:24 pm
Yes yes I have been known to buy something occasionally at HL. Even some of my famous elves. LOL
I should get my first shipment of the club in October.
I plan to take pics at the wineries because they are all supposed to have awesome grounds. The County where they are is Santa Barbara and they are requiring masks everywhere so I’ll be masked except while sipping
Yeah grief. Definitely will be sad times as she would have gone with us back in the day
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August 13, 2021 at 4:26 pm
I had no doubt you’d be safe! I know you!
Don’t be afraid to whack people with sticks if they get too close! Hehehe.
She’ll be with you in spirit. ❤️
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August 13, 2021 at 5:24 pm
Judge you for shopping Hobby Lobby? It’s the best place around for just beautiful and well-priced beloved pieces. I’m so sick of the political crap about where to shop – woke vs. MOST HORRIBLE MONSTERS IN THE WORLD.
I feel so sorry for this generation that never will know the peace and joy of not interjecting politics and every new CRISIS to come down the pike. Of just shopping and enjoying.
I care not one whit the politics of where I shop. Because there are SUPPOSED to be people of all types and persuasions owning and working everywhere, and I thought we were supposed to be IDIC people.
Turns out we’re not more IDIC than the very Vulcan society that claimed to be IDIC in the first place, and were the absolute furthest from it, including Spock’s own father who didn’t speak to him for 18 years. I’m sorry, but F them all who would judge someone getting something beautiful from any store you so choose that has what you like.
There. That’s where I stand. And even if I don’t approve of somebody’s politics, I’m not going to condemn anybody who shops at their business! The world has gone mad. I don’t see how we ever survive it.
Because right now it’s just like Jim and Spock talked about in Beyond. I can’t find the quote, but it’s like “me against you, you and me against our neighbor, we and our neighbor against the town, we and our town against the state” etc. I refuse to be micromanaged like that. Refuse. Like I say, in every business there should be people of all persuasions working and purchasing.
Point being, you owe NOBODY an apology or even a hesitation for buying whatever you want to buy, wherever you want to buy it. PERIOD.
I love HL. I love the music they play. I hate that I’m in too much pain now to be able to mosey around and browse and look. I always loved it!
And yeah, grief. It’s impossible to foretell when it’s going to hit you out of nowhere. All you can do is go with it and find comfort any way you can. It’s absolutely different for each and every person. I would never have been able to foresee what I felt and went through after my dad’s passing. I had no idea. I thought I did. But I couldn’t have been more wrong.
I hope you have a glorious time over the next week. Wish I could go. I’m beyond jealous.
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August 13, 2021 at 5:26 pm
Well okay. I was just joking so sorry I hit a nerve there. That wasn’t my intention 😦
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August 13, 2021 at 5:29 pm
I just dare anybody to give you grief over buying something at HL. Dammit!
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August 13, 2021 at 5:31 pm
Well ya know, I agree. I can’t deny they have great stuff at very good prices. For example, they had a great three pumpkin sign my sister just bought for $15
A similar one at another store online was $66!! Which one would ANYONE buy??? There was no real difference and such a difference so yep I will continue to buy from Hobby Lobby!
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August 13, 2021 at 5:51 pm
Oh oh and let me get some other controversies outta the way now that I think about it lol
I bathe every day or every other day at least, I don’t care about my so-called natural oils, never have, I use shampoo and conditioner regularly as well as shower gel and deodorant. If some celeb stinks they can stay away from me 😀
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August 13, 2021 at 6:33 pm
I just can’t even believe any celebs tell their family personal stuff, hygiene or otherwise. Who cares??? I don’t get it. With all that’s happening right now in the world, and others have so little to worry about in their own lives that they get all obsessed about what they said about showering? I don’t get it. I don’t get why anybody posts that kind of crap, nor why anybody else reads it! LOL. I don’t even care what Chris Pine does about that crap and I like him more than any celeb out there. Why do so many celebs believe the world hangs on their every opinion? I guess this ridiculous controversy teaches me why. But to me, that’s crazy!
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August 13, 2021 at 6:40 pm
I care a little about Chris because I would rather not know if he stinks but the rest…yeah HA HA HA
Madness. I suppose it’s one thing that distracts us from the true madness of the world these days I guess
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August 13, 2021 at 5:29 pm
And thank you 🙂
I will have a nice time I am sure.
I know you know all about that with your dad, ❤
I don't really feel bad for buying stuff from there, I really was kidding. I can't keep up with every business's nonsense. I don't eat at the chicken place, though, because I just don't like them. lol
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August 13, 2021 at 5:54 pm
Oh and in case you thought otherwise, I agree. I value your opinion here. I shop where I want life if far too short to freak out over every slight imagined or not imagined. I don’t really know what music they play as most of the time I shop on line and have for years even before the pandemic
I don’t want to offend you or think you offended me. It’s all good. 🙂
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August 13, 2021 at 6:35 pm
I’m so so sorry it even crossed your mind that I would be offended at what you said. It didn’t even cross my mind I might have offended you!!! ……Now it does! LOL
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August 13, 2021 at 6:37 pm
Just like I’d said a couple of weeks ago. I didn’t know there even WERE people calling reverse mortgages a way for the mortgage companies to steal your house. But when Tom Selleck told us some thought that…NOW I start thinking it! LOL
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August 13, 2021 at 7:53 pm
❤️ big hugs
I’m glad you bought that stake. I hope you have a lovely time with all the things you have planned.
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August 13, 2021 at 8:41 pm
thanks 🙂
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August 14, 2021 at 1:17 am
Enjoy buying what makes you happy. If you have a dozen
Fall garden stakes, who’s to say you shouldn’t? Enjoy your time away… relax and have fun.💕
I know how grief strikes at random times. It doesn’t follow a timeline. It hits you unexpectedly. My Dad passed in November of 2018 and although he had a couple of investments, I still have yet to transfer the last two to my name. I’ve contacted the companies several times and can’t bring myself to do the paperwork to have it in my name. When I speak to the company representative I start to cry! …and never follow up and do what they’ve told me to do. Like WTF? 🤦🏻♀️
Hugs to you ❤️❤️
Have a relaxing week!
🍷🍷🌈☁️☀️🍷🍷
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