I’ve got my 100 word stories scheduled through next Friday. I hope to get more to finish off the month.
However, Mom is in the hospital. On top of the dementia and the stage 4 kidney disease she already had she had become extremely anemic. To the point the doctor wanted to do a blood transfusion. I won’t go into all the details here but she went to the hospital this past Tuesday and she is still there. I am not sure when she will be released as they discovered the reason for the severe anemia was Leukemia. At 94. So yeah. She has had a good long life. None of us want to put her through the horrendous treatments she’d have to go through that she wouldn’t even understand. At this point it’s likely hospice for what time she has left and if that can be done at her home we’d all prefer it, but we just don’t know at this point. Blood doc says they could give her more blood again in a few weeks but its just going to keep going down.
Anyway, I don’t know what’s going to happen this month if anything with regard to her passing, but if she does, I’ll likely not be updating for a short bit.
Thank you and I just wanted to let you know here. I don’t really talk about it to anyone but that’s what is going on.
March 11, 2021 at 3:17 pm
Wow. That is though, a 94 year long story. I’m so so sorry.
I know writing is like your spa treatment for the brain, sort of. But goodness, please don’t even think about anything here till you’re ready.
I know we all think we know what it’s going to be like when that day comes we lose a parent. But I know from experience with both of mine, I was totally shocked at my reaction and feelings and what it did to me. So give yourself lots of room to make decisions, or be at her side, or whatever you need. And I mean, WHATEVER. Same for your sister.
I would just say, give yourself lots of room to handle the unexpected, as all of this is.
Hearts and prayers are with you and your family.
Take alllllll the time you need….and maybe a little more than you even think you need. You can’t go wrong with choosing YOU for awhile.
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March 11, 2021 at 3:29 pm
I have to say the Leukemia diagnosis was a huge surprise for me. At 94? But cancer spares no one as you know. She survived colon cancer at 82. But yeah this isn’t going to be a happy ending this time but she has had a wonderful life. We really thought the anemia was related to her kidney disease and she was undergoing iron shots in a clinical trial, etc. So the Leukemia never entered our minds. When they confirmed it yesterday I was shaking. Worse than that is my sister could visit with her the last two days but today they had a different charge nurse and she told her, nope only an hour, and maybe not at all tomorrow. Because of pandemic of course. They tested her of Covid of course and she doesn’t have it, which we know. She was going to get her vaccine on the 15th. Now…yeah, it’s hard to process.
Thank you ❤
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March 11, 2021 at 3:41 pm
Stupid pandemic rules. Seriously. Family don’t even get to visit with their dying loved ones in ICU. They have those full suit things – they could let them wear and visit. I hate how they’ve treated families through this.
I guess it might kind of help that because of her dementia, she won’t even be aware of what’s happening. 😢❤️🌹
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March 11, 2021 at 3:44 pm
Yeah she’s really weak and out of it at the moment. My sister isn’t even going to tell her she has the cancer. We figure she doesn’t need to know,
😦
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March 11, 2021 at 4:03 pm
Oh, and I meant to say, thank you so very very much for sharing this with us. I know you don’t share much any more about your life as you used to. So this is a really big deal that you’ve taken us into your confidence.
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March 11, 2021 at 4:19 pm
Yeah it’s…challenging. I mean I knew she could go at any time at her age but this is happening pretty fast. And the whole hospice thing. Wow. You think you’re prepared, but like you said, you really aren’t
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March 11, 2021 at 3:30 pm
I’m so sorry Ivan.
94 is amazing and I’m sure she had one hell of a life. 🙂
Big hugs and comforting thoughts.
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March 11, 2021 at 3:32 pm
thank you I appreciate it ❤
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March 11, 2021 at 4:06 pm
All the love dude. I know she’s been through a lot. Especially in the past few years. Sending the best thoughts and all the support I can to you. ❤️
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March 11, 2021 at 4:20 pm
Thank you. This was definitely very surprising and not good news to get ❤
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March 11, 2021 at 10:44 pm
I grieve with thee, but know that she will live on in your thoughts, words and deeds.
Take time to be with your loved ones by any means available.
FaceTime can be a comfort.
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March 12, 2021 at 6:59 am
thank you ❤
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March 12, 2021 at 3:25 pm
Oh Ivan, I’m so sorry for you. Yes, she’s come to a great age and she’s had a good life, but I feel it always still comes as a shock. I wish both her and you (and the rest of your family) that this journey will be as painless as possible under the circumstances. Sending you lots of virtual hugs!
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March 12, 2021 at 5:34 pm
thank you ❤
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March 12, 2021 at 4:43 pm
Ivan, my heart goes out to you and your family. Thank you for sharing this with us here. Do what feels best for you. Take the time to process this and grieve! If writing helps, then do it… if not, it and we can wait.
I know what it’s like to lose a parent. My dad died a little over two years ago now. He also had cancer. He got a diagnosis of gallbladder cancer on July 12, my husband‘s birthday and passed November 18. Up until his illness, he was an active 89-year-old, going to mass every day, going for walks, and going to senior citizen centers. It definitely was a shock to us and it takes a long time to go through the grieving process. Everyone handles it in a different way. Sending much love to you! 💕 ❤️💚😘🖖
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March 12, 2021 at 5:33 pm
Thank you. We brought her home tonight and hospice begins tomorrow. It’s likely she has weeks to a month or so but we will see
I appreciate the support ❤
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March 12, 2021 at 5:51 pm
Hospice was a wonderful help for my Dad and for us. Ask them what services they can provide. A massage therapist visited and helped my Dad feel at ease.
Sending love to you! ❤️❤️
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